How to learn a language on your own – The Ultimate Guide (Part 4 – Grammar and speaking – joyful beginnings)

Can you feel it?
We’re going on an adventure!

By this moment we should have everything we need to start learning.

If you’ve read the first part of this guide you should have some grammar book.
Internet sources are also acceptable but book is always more reliable.

But before we start, just a small disclaimer.


The process which I’m about to present work like a charm for me.
But we’re all different, so remember that your approach might vary from mine.
That’s why you should consider tweaking them a little bit so they’re more tailored for your needs.

This part of the guide will seriously get you started but of course it’s not possible to cover all complexities of particular languages.
I’m selective.

I don’t give a damn about being 100% correct at the beginning because nobody cares.
You know what is really tiring? Stuttering with perfect grammar every second word.

Sure, you’ll make mistakes but it rarely happens that they are serious.

– “I really do love rapes officer!”
– “Pardon me? You are sick and twisted person! Oh, wait! Did you mean grapes?”
– “Oh yeah, me thanks and love you long time!”

You see? At least you’re politely making a conversation.


There are two things which you should know before learning anything – your baseline and general outline of the subject you’re about to learn.

So what’s baseline?
This is the manner in which you can refer what you already know to the material you want to acquire.
It’s possible most of the time. However, sometimes you have to be really creative!

When you learn a new language, you can, of course,  compare it to the ones you already know.

General outline
You should know more less what the given language consists of.
Very important part of learning is knowing what you don’t know.

Skimming through grammar book can give you a pretty good picture of the language.
You can learn how many tenses there are or conjugations.

Now the real art is to pick grammar constructions which are the most useful to us
and will enable speaking as quickly as possible, while maintaining relatively high level of grammatical correctness.

I’ll stress just for clarity’s sake – you need a general outline of a language.
You’re not learning at this stage.


I’ll try to describe in as many details as it’s only possible how I usually approach learning languages.
Once again – my goal is to start speaking as soon as possible.

If yours is only to read or write – it’s still the approach I would choose as it helps you to build a grammatical scaffolding where you can later set vocabulary.

Grammatical correctness usually follows quickly once you start speaking.
To depict the said process, I’ll use Esperanto as an example.

It’s much easier than most languages and that’s precisely why it is perfect.

Just like scientists who use simple organisms to understand more complex ones,
I’ll use an easy language as an example so you can later transfer this knowledge to more complex ones.


I suggest the following – go through it (more less) step by step.
It’ll set you on the right path.

But the most important advice which I can give you is – ignore ALL the other things from further steps until you cover the ones you’re actually trying to learn.

It takes the burden of overthinking off of you.

When should you move to the next step?

Once you can use the structures from the current one with confidence.
Of course, feel free to change the order of these steps and adjust them to you if you feel it suits you better.


The first question which we have to ask ourselves is: what elements of language are the most important?
The answer is – the ones which you can’t substitute with anything else.

That’s why I always start with personal pronouns (subject pronouns).
For the sake of brevity, I’ll limit my examples to singular form.






Once we get a grasp of subject pronouns we can move to present tense.
This choice begs the same question as before.

Why present and not past or future tense?
Assuming that we have really little time at our disposal, we can always say something like:

“I eat dinner yesterday”
“she goes there in 3 days”

Sounds terrible – I’m pretty sure we all agree here BUT
It helps you to get your message across!

If there are more than 1 present tense in your target language, it’s better to choose the one which’s used for general events


Esperanto makes everything simple.
All verbs in present tense have endings -AS.

Obviously in language of your choice you’ll face more conjugations.
And the great thing is that you know how many because you learnt beforehand what the grammar outline of your target language looks like. (You READ it, riiiiiight?)

Now we have to learn how to construct:

  • affirmative sentence
  • negative sentence
  • questions

Questions are least important as you can always ask one using an affirmative sentence and changing your tone of voice.

AFFIRMATIVE SENTENCE (in present tense)

POSSIBLE TRAPS: In many languages the order of the sentence is fixed – e.g. The conjugated verb is always the second sentence element in German.

Be aware of it.

Let’s select some verbs so we can start creating sentences.

Short list of the most useful verbs

and 3 nouns

money = mono
time = tempo
book = libro

Now the best part – building sentences:

mi prenas libro = I take a book
ŝi vendas mono = she sells money
vi havas tempo = you have time

Please note that these sentences are incorrect (we should add -n to nouns in this case) – I’m trying to show the process of grammar acquisition as precisely as it is only possible.

As for now we know nothing about declension.
Nevertheless, such sentences can be understood without any problem.


Typically we can negate either a verb or a noun.
The most important for us is how to negate verbs.

In English we use the adverb “not” to do so.
In Esperanto we can do it using “ne” before verbs.


Mi ne havas mono = I don’t have money
 ŝi ne vendas mono = she doesn’t sell money
vi ne havas tempo = you don’t have time


Close-ended questions
Some most popular ways to form a yes-no (i.e. close-ended) question in many languages is to use intonation, inversion (present in English), inflection, auxiliary verbs (do, have, etc. in English) or a grammatical particle.

The latter is true in, among others, Polish, Esperanto and French.
In Esperanto we use the particle “ĉu“.


love = ami
Do you love money? = ĉu vi amas mono ?

Do you have a book ? = ĉu vi havas libro?

Open-ended questions

If we want to learn some more details, it’s great to know the most popular interrogative words:

List of interrogative words


Who = kiu, what = kio

Who do you love? = Kiu vi amas?
What does he want? = Kio li volas?


The final step to make our sentences clearer and fancier is to learn some more personal pronouns

POSSIBLE TRAPS: You have to be aware that in some languages you can encounter many categories of pronouns depending on the case.


my – mia
your – via
his – lia
her – ŝia


Let’s add two adjectives to spruce things up a bit:

big – granda*
cheap – malmultekosta*

* All adjectives in Esperanto end with -A

My book isn’t big – Mia libro ne estas granda
His time isn’t cheap – Lia tempo estas malmultekosta


me – min
you – vin
him – lin
her – ŝin

She loves you (yeah, yeah, yeah) – ŝi amas vin
Do I need her? – ĉu mi bezonas ŝin?


Why are they so great?

Because you can simply learn them, point at some object and grunt:

“Not this, that!”

Lovely, right?

this – (ĉi) tiu
that – tiu
these – (ĉi) tiuj
those – tiuj

This person is stupid – Tiu persono estas stulta
He gives that money – Li donas tiu mono*

* I still  make mistakes on purpose. It should read: li donas tiun monon.


List of indefinite pronouns


Someone = iu, everything = ĉio

She knows everything = ŝi scias ĉio

Someone wants you = iu volas vin

I’ve decided to skip reflexive pronouns.

But feel free to read about them.


Long and (almost) complete list of conjunctions

The ones that are the most important to me at the beginning are:
because, and, but, or, after, before, that, that’s why, , to, although, if, until, since, although, otherwise

Conjunctions give us this nice feeling of confidence when we speak. They combine two or more sentences and add a great touch of logic and cohesion to them.


because = ĉar
I love you because you’re pretty = Mi amas vin ĉar vi estas bela

understand = kompreni

I understand that’s why I sell = Mi komprenas tial mi vendas

That’s it when it comes to grammar basics. More to come!


If any of grammar purists pester me with e-mails saying that I oversimplify things, I swear that I’ll send you some disturbing pictures.

For example one which contain all the things from Ungud’s domain.
In case you wonder – he is associated with rainbows and the fertility, and erections of the tribe’s shamans.


You can create your own context and the world within a language.
You’ll have time to adjust the accuracy later.

As long as use logic and try to avoid any idiomatic expressions you should be understood.

– Know the general outline of grammar before you start
– Learn grammar step by step, once you feel quote comfortable within some grammar structure – move on
– If you want to start speaking as fast as possible, learn the thing which can’t be substituted with anything else first
– Your brain craves sense and meaning – create your own context, have fun, start saying some silly stuff!
– Embrace imperfection, we all have to start somewhere

If you think that this guide can help your good friends – please do share 🙂


  • You wrote ” ŝi vendas mono” instead of ” ŝi NE vendas mono”

    • You’re right! Thanks a lot! 🙂

      • I am an english teacher. is yr method applicable to teach 13 and 14 years old where English is foreign to them.?

        • Hi! It definitely is. I’ve had many successes with teaching children with this method. However, I wouldn’t recommend it fully for kids < 10 years old. ' Their reasoning skills are usually too poorly developed to fully the advantage of such teaching approach. Remember that using this method doesn't mean "dry" stating of the facts and rules. You can make it fun ! 🙂 Good luck!

  • Wow, there’s a lot of great stuff here. The biggest drawback, in my personal case, is that my Japanese learning is hampered by the fact that they often don’t use pronouns, your step one. Glad it’s something I can work around. Looking forward to seeing if this can jump start my learning again. Thanks for the tips!

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